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My 2018 Words of the Year

Hey everyone. This is definitely more of a serious post because I really aspire to connect with you on a deeper level. I'm human, I'm not perfect, I don't mind being a clich√© (and don't understand what's so bad about being one) at any time. We get so used to hearing and seeing the same pieces of advice, that maybe we forget that there was an important message behind these sage words. 

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My first word is FOCUS.

I did not accomplish nearly enough last year, but I came pretty close to meeting every single thing on my list. I was so thinly spread over what to do with multiple businesses that I got caught up in mismanaging my time. So to counteract that, I made a distinct set of goals via a mini vision board and put it where I'll see it every day, talked to Nicholas to make sure he holds me accountable, and wrote out ways in which I can reach my goals. I really forgot that you need steps in order to achieve a goal.

Nowadays, multi-tasking is praised and cherished among friends, family members, and employers. If you're doing everything, you must be doing something right, right? Not for me. I need to be able to devote 100 percent of my mind's eye to the task at hand, rather than trying to do a 30-30-30-10 split and potentially losing the best part of what makes my businesses me. Even growing up, I was accustomed to playing my nintendo ds, riding in the car, listening to music, and talking to my mom at pretty much the same time. I can still hear myself processing what she said, minutes after she said it, and asking, "what was that last part again?" It probably drove her mad. 

I'm focusing on my marriage, my career, and my mental health, but not necessarily in that order. I'm going to bat for every single goal I set and hitting grade A home runs this year, no questions, guaranteed. I want my focus to permeate the walls of our home and the lives of our friends so much so that they have no other choice but to focus, too. 

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My second, last and equally important word is FORGIVENESS. 

Everyone has their sob stories, and I'm not one for pity parties, but last year was what I'd call my diamond-in-the-making year. I was a lumpy piece of coal being pressured by so much outside influence that I didn't have any other choice but to be who I was meant to be. I truly believe I found a path to my purpose, and some of that journey includes forgiving others, but mostly myself. I had to step it up and be confident in my decisions, and apologize for putting my feelings, needs, and wants on the back-burner for so long. I had to forgive my parents for doing the best they could with what they had and stop making them into the bad guys. I had to forgive my husband for dealing with his demons after they'd done their damage and myself for making him do it alone. I mostly had to forgive myself for being so angry and hurt but not doing anything to change it. 

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One of my favorite animated movies, definitely top 5, is Meet the Robinsons. I love that it's based on Walt Disney's ideal to "Keep Moving Forward," and these two words will allow me to do just that. Can you relate to these words? If not, what are your words for the new year?